How do you deal with social media?
Are you overwhelmed by it?
Do you fall into the comparison trap with so-and-so?
Do you get into comment wars conversations with friends who have different political or religious beliefs?
Or are you like me and just don’t care that much?
Don’t get me wrong, I am a social media junkie. I love to find interesting people on Twitter to fill up my feed. If you write things like – If I could have dinner with anyone, alive or dead, I’d probably choose alive because I probably wouldn’t be very hungry if I were dead. @000_000 – I will follow you. Checking Facebook is an hourly daily activity, I love to see what my friends and family are up to. I am guilty of taking pictures of coffee only to post on Instagram. (I have a Google+ account, but does anyone really care?). And I love my little blog along with the 100+ I spend time reading every week.
But really, I don’t care that much.
If tomorrow I had to shut it all down, walk away from the internet and live without another status update for-ev-er, could I? Absolutely. Would I miss it? Totally.
Because, even though I feel like I have a connection to all of these people, I don’t.
The cute fashion blogger I follow doesn’t call me when she needs a shoulder to cry on. My friend from Jr.High doesn’t seek me out when there’s a victory to celebrate. The random couple I met at Starbucks through a mutual friend doesn’t schedule double dates with me and husband.
They reach out to the people with whom they have true connection and relationship.
Are you overwhelmed by social media? Take a break from it. Shut down your Facebook account for a month. Turn off the laptop and don’t turn it on again for a day or two. I promise it’ll all be there when you come back.
Do you fall into the comparison trap with so-and-so? Go buy a journal. In said journal, write down at least one thing you are thankful for every day for a month. Realize at the end of the month your life isn’t too shabby. (I would also recommend one thousand gifts by Ann Voskamp if you want some reading on the subject.)
Do you get into comment wars conversations with friends who have different political or religious beliefs? Just don’t. In my experience, these conversations lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. I agree with another blogger who said today, “A good rule to remember is: if you wouldn’t say it to your friend face-to-face, it doesn’t need saying on her Facebook wall either.”
Social media is a great tool for connecting with others, but it’s no more than a tool. It can never be a replacement for true relationships.